Since sharing the happy news of my engagement to Cristina, occasionally we get asked when our wedding will be. Our answer is always that we are unsure because we are waiting on SCOTUS (Supreme Court of the United States). Our hope is that SCOTUS will make marriage equality the law of the land. Assuming that is the case, we will be married in Louisiana so that our family and friends may attend. Plan B is that we would be married in Florida and that our family and some close friends might join us. So we anxiously wait. And although chances are this will be announced on the last Monday of the SCOTUS term, you never know. Until then I stay glued. Everyday reading my twitter timeline and Yahoo news for the big headline.
In doing so I came across an article by Michael Abernethy on PopMatters.com about the upcoming SCOTUS decision where he quotes an episode of Glee. I thought the quote was humorous and couldn’t be MORE truthful so I wanted to share it. A character named Brittany tells her girlfriend’s homophobic grandmother, “You know The New York Times said half the increase in support of gay marriage is due to generational turn-over. That’s what smart people call crazy uptight bitches dying. You guys lost, okay? And honestly the rest of us are just going about our business being normal and waiting for you to not be around, not because you can stop us from getting married, but just because you’re kinda annoying.”
So whether marriage equality comes down in a couple weeks or if it delayed a bit longer eventually it WILL come to the other 13 states. And it will be a very sad day for you crazy uptight bitches.
It’s a fine day in our great nation when nearly 70% of Americans live in a state with the freedom to marry for same-sex couples. I must be honest in saying at one point in my life I NEVER thought I would live to see the possibility of our 50 states offering that privilege and right to all Americans not just the heterosexual ones. But the course for change dictates that my feeling/thoughts will probably be wrong (gladly).
When it comes down to it, something so simple as two people marrying should just be an AMERICAN right. It shouldn’t be all rights for straight Americans and only certain rights for the gay ones. I shouldn’t be treated as a second class citizen. I certainly don’t get tax breaks for the luxuries I miss out on because I’m gay. In fact it’s almost as if I essentially pay higher taxes because the money I pay is used to provide civil benefits to the heterosexual community while I am denied those same benefits. The day is nearing though where I can gladly say that I’m not second class but equal to all my friends and family because I too will have that right to marry and gain in the 1,138 benefits afforded to married couples.
Although the tide has shifted in the correct direction there are still marriage opponents willing to waste MILLIONS of tax dollars fighting a losing cause because well….they just don’t like it. Of course religion is a huge reason as is homophobia but they can’t quite say that in court. You can’t mosey in and state God wanted, Jesus preached, the Bible says. According to Bible thumpers a gay act is an abomination and they will not inherit the kingdom of God. In hearing a conversation that was being had I thought I should look up other abominations according to the Bible. I mean you can’t quite pick and choose right?. If you are going to live by a statement in the Old Testament you should live by them all. Here is a very short list of my personal favorite abominations:
- Enjoy a rare steak? Leviticus 7:26
- Arrogant or Conceited? This one is for you. Proverbs 16:5
- Wearing clothes of the opposite sex Deuteronomy 22:5 (Watch those Halloween costumes! Red dress run?…eek)
- Drunkenness, orgies, jealousy, fits of anger, and many more Galatians 5:19-21
- God didn’t hate gays. He hated shrimp, lobster, crawfish, and crabs. Leviticus 11:10-12
- Ever lied? Proverbs 12:22
- A scale that isn’t accurate? Proverbs 11:1, 20:10
- Visit a barber? Leviticus 19:27
- Don’t feel like hearing the law? Proverbs 28:9
- Adultery? Damn…death for you. Leviticus 20:10
- This one is just WRONG. Physically handicapped, birth defects? Leviticus 21:16-23
And the list continues on. In fact reading all of the abominations according to the Bible there is at least one to cover I would say 100% of the population. Well isn’t that something? But somehow man has altered God’s “instructions” to fit their own desires and beliefs. Also remember there is no degree of sin. A sin is a sin is a sin. What makes my supposed sin much more grave than yours? While on the topic of Biblical verses lets turn the page to the New Testament where there is a verse everyone should live by:
“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” Matthew 7:1-2
Let’s be quite honest. My relationship with the woman I love has no bearing on you or your household. I don’t recruit people to become gay. I’m not contagious. You can’t catch “gay”. Our child won’t be raised to be gay, which in fact, I hope the absolute opposite for her with all the hate and prejudice in this world. It’s honestly easier to be straight. Also, remember it wasn’t that long ago that interracial couples weren’t allowed to marry. However since becoming legal in 1967, I doubt the people lobbying against it are still losing sleep over what they thought might have happened if two people from different ethnicities were to marry.
And speaking of the word “marry” what’s with people wanting to claim the word as a religious word?? Should the word not apply to Americas who are athiest? I guess there should now be a special term for them. What about Americans who opted to go to a Justice of the Peace to get married? Should a special term be given to them since God was not invited into their ceremony? Why should I have to be “civilly united” when God will be present at our ceremony? Or better yet “pairried” which is the laughable term a Utah Republican is introducing in a bill that would apply the term “pairage” all Utah gay marriages. He believes “pairage” should be applied to all couples who cannot biologically procreate. Someone please alert the thousands of Americans in Utah that are infertile/sterile that they are now “pairried”.
The truth is having one term for a group of people and another term for a different group is discrimination no matter how you dice it. I am a patriotic, tax paying, law abiding citizen that deserves ALL the rights as my other fellow Americans. There should be no difference. As a very proud American I will be even more proud when the Supreme Court eventually sides on the the right side of history and says I’m no longer second class.
Well I’ve been gone for a while although not intentionally. It was mostly because of writer’s block. My pistons were completely frozen. Nothing in the news I was reading would get my creative juices flowing, I had nothing that I felt I needed to discuss, and in the event that I did have something to post I felt like too much time had passed by to put it on Mad Pad. Of course I’m more than sure I am over-thinking the latter of the three but I just feel I should talk about relevant/current topics. I mean I am supposed to keep you guys’ interest.
Well our summer was pretty great. We were able to get home a lot earlier every evening and not have to worry about assisting with studying, doing homework, running Raimee to practices or dance classes. Raimee was in a new summer camp that she LOVED. We had no traffic or long daily commutes to the Westbank. We were able to do what we wanted not having to worry about a whole lot. We got to spend a lot of time poolside which is absolutely my family’s favorite pastime. We vacationed on the Carnival Dream for a week and had a fantastic time while meeting new friends (shout out Melanie and Kevin!) It really couldn’t have been better. But with every pastime that is a blast, the summer flew by and well ……. all good things come to an end. *sigh*
But not all good things. I FINALLY have something that has my Mad Pad pistons firing once again. Finally something to post because sharing it here will be the closest I can get to shouting it from a proverbial mountain top. After 4 years of relationship bliss we are engaged! SHE SAID YES!
Now I didn’t put that sentence all in caps because I thought she would say no or I was surprised. LOL It was more because I am so excited to be starting another chapter in our lives. This is the relationship I always dreamed about having. One of those relationships people looked at and thought “Wow. I want that.” Well we have that. I found the person I was supposed to be with. The person that completes me. The person that comforted me when I was having the scariest moment I’ve experienced to date. The person that I can tell my deepest secrets to without judgment. The one that I can be the silliest form of me and she is silly right back. I love that smile. I love her. She is my fairy tale ending.
And with this fantastical news the next year will be a busy one. A busy one I’m definitely welcoming. Lots to do and see. Lots to research. Things to plan and places to go all leading up to what will be the best day of my life where I can say I am married to Cristina Baudier. *big sigh* Yep. I’m already secretly counting down the days. 🙂
People are up in arms about the recent suspension of Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson from the show. Everywhere you look people are defending his comments, posting that A&E should be ashamed for taking that stand as he has every right to say what he wants according to the first amendment. I do not disagree with freedom of speech. He can say whatever the hell he wants to say at any given time and I don’t give a shit. I have the same right. However if I come to my place of employment and start ranting off about a particular group of people or saying discriminatory things publicly you can bet your bottom dollar that will NOT be tolerated and I WILL be fired. How is what A&E any different? I can say whatever the hell I want to say as a constitutionally protected right. Is my employer going to stand by that? Is that who they will want to represent the company I work for? I guess not. A&E has their own right not to employ someone if they publicly make opinionated comments about a select group of people.
Phil Robertson was not arrested. He was not hauled off or has charges brought against him. No right of his is being denied. The only thing that happened was he lost his paycheck. The same thing would have happened to many Americans from their place of employment. As a celebrity you still have the right to speak your mind, in fact on a much larger platform, but at the same time that doesn’t mean there will not be repercussions for what you say. For anyone’s argument to say that his freedom of speech was revoked you are WRONG. No legal charges were brought against him, therefore, no right was denied. In fact now that he is suspended from A&E he is more then welcome to continue his ignorant rant and continue his version of what he believes Jesus would have wanted.
On a side note while his opinions are his and for him to say whenever he chooses, I don’t believe that as a gay person I should be lumped in and compared to terrorists, prostitutes, drunks, etc. I am a fully functioning, responsible, law abiding, and patriotic citizen. My beautiful relationship with the woman I love has no bearing on the judgmental people who claim they do not judge and love everyone yet in the same sentence will then tell me about what I do is wrong or unnatural. The next logical step from homosexuality is NOT beastiality and alienating a huge portion of the country doesn’t exactly make for the loving behavior Jesus preached about. And let’s also note that if Phil had made similar comments about African Americans or Jews there would be a public outcry for his head…. a la Paula Dean. It is just plain wrong not to have the same sense of indignation when the comments are directed at gays.
“Judge not, that ye be not judged.” Matthew 7:1-3